Alot has occurred since my last blogging session. To make a long story short we went through an adoption in which the mother changed her mind at THE very last minute.More details. We named the child, we went from our home in North Carolina to RI to see her a a 10 days after she was born and we so prepared for her arrival! In fact, Nate's mother and I were spending a week up there with 2 month old Kaidance, planning her introduction to our families in RI, scheduling photography sessions and just holding her. We bought plane tickets for Nate to come too and the night before departure, we heard that the mother had second thoughts from the beginning! :/ Hurt, you are damn right! A hurt like no other, a hurt I would not wish on my worst enemy but also a hurt that instilled the strength in us to move forward with a determination like no other; a hurt that enabled us to do bigger and better things!
We are currently in the process of becoming foster parents!! We have taken our classes, dissected our lives, and are closing in on the "application" process. We started the journey on February 6th and hopefully by the fall we shall hear the pitter patter of little feet throughout our empty home!!! LONG journey but its wonderful think that a little girl and the loss of her in our lives will touch so many other children who need us even more! Kaidance will be so proud of the lesson she taught us and the good that will come of it!! She was adopted by a good friend of mine whom also adopted her sister. She told us from the beginning that if the birth mother <drug addicted and could never get custody herself> she would contest it and fight for her (since she was married into her family and Social Services is a family first establishment) to keep the sisters together. So, Kaidance Marie has her family ( and we'll always be a part of each others lives) and we will have ours and help many other children in the meantime!
You see, we could have hated the world. We could have dwelled on all of the sleepless nights we spent worrying about the adoption, worried about her safety in her careless mother's womb. We could dwell on money lost, heartbreak and the unfairness of it all, but we made a pact to take life's blows and make the best of it!! Like I said hurt like hell? yeah. but closure has been obtained and we stuck to our motto and made the best of it! Hero, I hope to be someone's someday...and I feel like one already with all we've overcome with this, miscarriage, years of infertility treatments and procedures and NOW this!!!! We rock, we took a bad situation and made it good again! That's what life is all about. Let's face it, life sucks sometimes. It just does. You always get over it though and life somehow goes on!! Why not turn it around as fast as you can so the hurt doesn't linger? I mean, grieve--we did for a month, I couldn't go into the nursery and see the Murial painted above her crib with her name and ours in a tree that 3 of my friends spent 10 hours on to surprise me. Mourning is natural and necessary to let go, but do it and move on. We found something to do with our time that would make us feel good, give back AND make our dreams come true!!! What better way than to foster--with the option to adopt if the option presents itself!!!! I am SO excited and ready for what is being brought our way!! :)
Please pray for us! :)
XoXo ~Lisa Marie
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